You don’t know me and I don’t know you, but my son, Timothy, sometimes sits beside your son at school. Timothy is a great kid. He’s curious and smart and is the kindest child I know. Unfortunately, other kids can’t seem to see that. Timothy has severe autism spectrum disorder. He’s also a seven-year-old little boy who loves and plays with all of his heart. He needs a lot of extra help at school and sometimes seems just plain oblivious to what’s happening right underneath his nose. But do not be mistaken, he can do anything once he puts his mind to it. RELATED: I Regret Having My Child Because I Miss The Life I Could Have Had He wants friends but sometimes doesn’t know how to make them. He wants to play but sometimes doesn’t know how to ask. He wants to be included but sometimes doesn’t know how. We parents of children with special needs know only too well the hurt our kids feel when they’re left out of social gatherings. Organized sports, play dates, sleepovers, and yes, the dreaded birthday parties. I can say wholeheartedly that my son hasn’t attended a single one. We’ve received countless invitations in the past few years but mostly by kids who mercilessly invite the entire class. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful. But I wonder if the parents know what would happen if I brought Timothy? The interruptions, the meltdowns. How I would hate to take the spotlight from the birthday child. So we politely decline. Every single one. Until your invitation arrived in the mail with a special note. RELATED: 6 Myths About Autism We Wish You’d Quit Believing It read: “Carter sat beside Timothy at school and he always talks about him. I really hope he can come. We are renting a bounce castle that we can attach a small bounce slide to at the bottom. We will also have water balloons and water guns. Maybe Timothy can come earlier in the day if it would be too much with the whole class. Let me know how we can make it work.” You wrote exactly what I needed to see that day and didn’t even know it. Because of your son, he’s included. Because of your son, he feels wanted. Because of your son, he has a voice. And I want you to know that because of you, I can get through another day. Because of you, I can get through another appointment. Because of you, I can take more stares and more questions. RELATED: Mom Asks If She’s Wrong For Letting 16-year-old Son With Autism Sleep With Her In Her Bed Because of you, I have hope for Timothy’s future. I just wanted to tell you what a fantastic job you’re doing with your son. This mom will be RSVPing with a ‘heck yes!’ for the first time ever. And I can’t wait. RELATED: The Devastating Reason I’m Forced To Hide My Son’s Autism Diagnosis Trish Klein is a contributor to YourTango who writes on parenting and autism. This article was originally published at themighty.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.
