Here, real women share the above-and-beyond things their friends do — none of which require a ton of resources. Try one or two of them with your own crew and get ready to learn how to be a good friend all while feeling more connected. RELATED: 25 Inspirational Friendship Quotes To Celebrate The People Who Just ‘Get’ You
1. They love your family.
“My mom is kind of nutty, but one of my close friends is always so good about engaging with her. They even have text chains that I’m not a part of, and my friend will always invite my mom to coffee or dinner when she’s visiting me. Seeing my friends care about the people closest to me, even the ones who drive me crazy, means so much.” —Dani, 32
2. They forgive and forget.
“I had a huge falling out with a friend years ago. When my daughter was born about a decade later, she’d heard through the grapevine and sent an e-mail saying congratulations and that she would love to see us. I had been in a really bad place in my life when we had the fight; I can totally say it was 90 percent my fault. But she didn’t want to dwell on the past or hear apologies; she wanted to connect as we were now. I was so grateful that she gave me a second chance.” —Katherine, 40 This article was originally published at Prevention. Reprinted with permission from the author. RELATED: 5 Signs Your Friendship Is Turning Toxic And It’s Time To Break Up With Your Friend
4. They lose the scoreboard.
“With three kids, aging parents, and a scary medical diagnosis, I had a lot on my plate this year. My neighbor Jane stepped in to babysit, make meals, and generally help keep things running. At first, I’d try to keep up. If she made a casserole, I’d bring a pie over the next weekend. Finally, she told me that she wasn’t keeping track — that she lost the scoreboard, and she would never offer if she didn’t want to do it. That was something I needed to hear. With other friendships, especially ones I made as an adult, I often felt like there was a silent tallying up. It felt so good to know I could just depend on her.” —Trish, 42
5. They surprise you.
“This is silly, but I love sloths, and a friend recently bought me a pair of socks with sloths in party hats that she found at Target. To make it even better, she put them in the mail. It was such a fun surprise and something I’d love to do with other friends.” —Kelly, 32
6. They show up.
“My mom died a few years ago, and I’d posted a photo of her on Instagram on the anniversary of her death. One of my friends texted to say she was right outside my door and she had something for me. She’d bought a candle and had written a card about how amazing my mom must have been and what an amazing person I was. If she’d asked if she could come over, I would have said no. But she showed up. She didn’t ask to come in and kept her coat on, which I also really liked. I wasn’t up for entertaining, but I did need company, which she clearly realized.” —Ruth, 33
7. They go the extra mile (literally).
“I’d been invited to speak at a major event in my town, which was across the country from where a friend was living. I didn’t expect her to show up, especially since I’d only been confirmed as a speaker a week before the event. But my friend bought a plane ticket, showed up, and took a flight back the next morning. She was only in town for 10 hours total, and it just meant so much to me.” —Bridget, 38 RELATED: 12 Quotes That Perfectly Describe What Friendship Should Never Be Anna Davies is a writer who works at Cosmopolitan. Wrecked is her first novel.
