I have opened my heart and soul to others only to be stabbed with the things they know would hurt me like I’ve been knifed a thousand times. I have been made to feel worthless. All these, the people I loved have done to me.
But it’s okay. I was vulnerable then and still am. And, again, it’s okay.
RELATED: 50 Vulnerability Quotes To Give You The Strength To Live Openly Now, don’t get me wrong. I didn’t say you should encourage other people to do these things to you. I didn’t mean they made me feel good nor did I turn a blind eye to all these things. You might think I was stupid to experience all these, but no. I wasn’t being stupid. I was being vulnerable. I wanted to feel and experience my life to the fullest, and you can only love and be loved this strongly if you can be vulnerable. Being vulnerable means opening yourself up to the people you give the chance to seeing the real you. It’s like putting your own heart and soul into their hands and mapping out for them where exactly they can strike to hurt you the most, and at the same time, trusting them that they wouldn’t. Thing is, they will, and it’s hypocritical of anyone of us to think they won’t. But darling, it’s okay.
Being vulnerable is okay. While it shattered me a lot of times, it’s the best thing I’ve ever let myself be.
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…Because it left me with no regrets.
I put myself out in the open and showed the people I loved how much I loved and cared for them. While I was wronged in the end, and all my efforts and feelings were thrown away, nothing still beats the feeling of knowing you did everything you could. That you loved the best you could and you didn’t let anything get in the way of that. Of not having “what ifs.” Of not wondering “what could’ve been.” All for the people and things that make you happy. I’ll let you in on a little secret: the more you hold back, the harder it would be to move on, the more regrets you’ll have.
…Because I got to know who are for keeps.
If there’s one thing I realized after all the heartbreaks and broken relationships, it’s this: you can never be “perfect” enough to make the wrong person stay. There will always be something that’s not right — the situation, the timing, or just anything that will be good enough reason for the other person to leave. While I lost a lot of people in my life, I gained rare and real ones. And these are the people I would rather have. I found out who really cares and I couldn’t be any happier to have known and kept them. Imagine, if you were happy being with the wrong people in your life, how much more could you be with the right ones. RELATED: 5 Reasons Vulnerability Leads To A Long-Lasting Relationship (& 4 Ways To Turn It Into True Intimacy)
…Because I learned and grew.
I still do. All the times I pulled myself back up, I only came out stronger and more understanding. I became more and more capable of loving. Had I not exposed myself to the risk of getting broken, I wouldn’t have experienced love. Like the real love, the fearless love. I wouldn’t have had happy memories to look back to now and then. I wouldn’t have been as excited as I am in meeting the right people. I wouldn’t have known who really cares. And, most of all, I wouldn’t have learned and grown into the person that I am now.
…Because it’s okay.
It’s okay to let yourself free, to let your walls down. It’s okay to love the wrong person. To make mistakes, get hurt, and be broken. It’s okay to let yourself feel everything. To exhaust yourself fighting for the things you think are worth it. To burn yourself out chasing everything that makes you feel glad you are alive. Darling, it’s okay. It’s what makes us human. It’s not going to be easy, but I can assure you that you’ll look back to the days you let yourself be vulnerable and see it as a blessing in disguise. Now, open yourself up. Let people in. Invade other people’s heart. Love. Be vulnerable. Darling, it’s okay. RELATED: How To Tell The Person You Love Exactly How You Feel (Without Starting A Fight) Unwritten is a website for millennials written and run by millennials. We’re committed to giving Generation-Y the discussion they need, whether it be a source of news, a much needed laugh, a comforting shoulder to cry on, or a place to have their own stories heard. This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.
