The second way we can talk to ourselves is to recognize and give credit for the good ideas, behaviors, and positive influences we have created each day while noticing the beauty and greatness of everything around us. The main theme is to think about kindness towards yourself and others. We all know what unkindness feels like and it is painful. Kindness has a positive effect on everyone. If you fall into the first category of thinking, you can become your own best cheerleader while transforming those negative thoughts into a positive way to see yourself and the world. RELATED: How To Grow Into The Kind Of Person You’ve Always Wanted To Be
5 techniques to help you become your own best cheerleader
1. Say ‘stop’ to any negative thoughts or behaviors.
As you stop the thoughts, give yourself credit for changing the direction of those thoughts. You can replace the negative thought with a goal, gratitude, a pleasant memory or by just being mindful of where you are at the moment. Look around in a state of gratitude. RELATED: 10 Scientific Ways To Massively Boost Your Confidence
2. Give yourself the credit you deserve.
Acknowledge every positive event, experience, or interaction you experience each day. This can be done with your partner, your kids, or just a mental check-in with yourself. You can give yourself credit immediately after a good experience or a pleasant encounter. If I am out hiking and I trip but prevent myself from falling on my face, I make sure I say “good job, Janet”, and it feels uplifting.
3. Keep a gratitude list.
Challenge yourself to start with 100 experiences, memories, aspects of your life, and things you enjoy which include parts of your personality that you appreciate. Add to this list frequently. RELATED: 7 Simple Ways To Boost Your Self-Confidence And Feel Better
4. Recognize and express positive feelings or appreciation to others, even strangers.
Compliment others as often as you can and find things to say to others that are positive and encouraging. In expressing appreciation to others, the feelings and thoughts within our minds improve. With the intention of seeing the good in others and in the world, you are energetically becoming a world cheerleader.
5. Recognize the positive qualities you see in yourself.
Come up with a list that you can say out loud or in your mind. Here is a partial list to choose from: I am strong, I am healthy, I am determined, I am intelligent, I am funny, I am resilient, I am loyal, I am attractive, I am adaptable, I am light-hearted, I am entertaining, I am thoughtful, I am abundant, I am energetic, and so on. Practice saying any of these things about yourself whenever the opportunity arises: while walking, while driving while taking a shower, or even with a therapist or good friend. It is fun to become your own cheerleader and as your self-talk improves, so will your life experiences and relationships improve. This could be a good step in healing our world! RELATED: 21 Ways To Build Self-Esteem & Uplift Your Confidence Janet Lee Whitney, MA, LMFT has been a licensed psychotherapist, since 1982. She is the author of the book and program entitled Facing Your Fears and Following Your Dreams.
